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The Right Time is NOW

The Right Time is NOW

Jan 24, 2021 | 5 comments

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I’ll do it when (a condition about getting something done first)

I’ll do it when I’m done with my schoolwork.

I’ll get it when (a condition about having something first)

I’ll get it when I have the perfect room.

I’ll learn it when (a condition about being free from other responsibilities)

I’ll learn it when I’m done with my exams.

I’m sure you too could complete at least one of the three sentences. 

At some point or the other, you have delayed specific activities, like something you wanted to do or learn, because you thought that there is something more important that needs our attention at the moment. We usually decide that we’ll look at the other things a bit later when we are done with what we have right now. 

In simpler words, we believed that the time was not right for it. 

If the time is not right for things, we wait and for the right time to come, so that we can do it.

But the fact is that there won’t be a right time. Time doesn’t say if it’s right or wrong for something. 

It’s we who decide if it is the right time to do something. Time is a man made concept made for our convenience and therefore, right or wrong time is created by us too.

Therefore, it is us who will have to make the time right.

More often than not, we’ll feel about something that we want to do, that we would start or pick it up later, when we have less on our plates, or we are a little less busy from our lives (hint hint – weekend).

But I’m not writing this off the cuff. This is a personal experience. Whenever there was something new that I would have to start, like learning something new, or resuming a previous hobby, I would think, ‘I’ll do this on the weekend when I am free from school and other stuff and then pay my full attention to it.’

But guess what? I could never find the time to do any of these things even at the seemingly right time – the weekend.

And why did this happen?

Because I didn’t realise that life doesn’t come to a pause on a weekend. It may slow down, or take a different route compared to the weekdays. The classes or work that you have on the weekdays may not be there, but there is still so much more to do, including the stuff from classes and work. But you won’t just get  the time to do things you want to on the weekend either, unless you plan it in your schedule. Because unless we control our time and focus, things are rarely going to happen the way we want them to.

And if you have to schedule the activities anyways, why not incorporate them on the weekdays itself? You might as well do the things you like doing with your work.


All of this being said, I am not asking you to leave all your other things and start doing things you have been procrastinating. I am only asking you to realise the fact that there won’t be any right time to do the things. Even when we reach our right time, we’ll feel some other day be more appropriate for the thing. This is why, the right time to do anything is NOW. It’s really now or never.

 

How Can a Happy List Help You?

How Can a Happy List Help You?

Jan 17, 2021 | 4 comments

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Everyone has bad days, where you don’t feel like doing anything, and neither does anything feel good. Nothing may feel right at the time, but deep down you know that things were alright earlier, and will become better again sooner or later. You may need to wait or work for it, but you know it gets better. Even though these days aren’t the best things that could happen to you, it’s okay for you to have a bad day every once in a while. But what would be wrong would be to get affected by the bad days and not trying to become better. 

What is noteworthy is the fact that the faster you feel great again, the faster you’ll be able to make things again.

But how exactly do you feel better again?

I think it’d be safe to rule out someone telling you to “cheer up”. We know that never makes things any better.

So what would help?

Listening to yourself will help. Sometimes, we get so stubborn that we will not listen to or obey anyone but ourselves. You and me both know we’ve been there, done that. 

And how do you tell yourself that you have it in you to get over this and achieve this?

You show yourself evidence. Basically, you recount the times that you have been able to achieve things in the past, and there is no reason that you can’t do it now. 

You just have to curate a list of things or incidents that have made you crazy happy in the past. It could be anytime between your birth and right now.

There’s no need to not include an item because you think ‘Oh! I was a small kid back then.’ That’s the thing we need to realise. If our younger, more naive selves could do it, then why can’t the present you do it? You’re equipped with more knowledge, experience and other resources. 

The list can include things that you were appreciated and recognised for, things that made you happy or something that you achieved. Include every tiny thing that you can in the list if it makes you happy. Make sure to put at least 100 things in this list.

We could call it the ‘happy list’, because you know, it makes you happy. 

When you have this list ready in front of you, just go through it. You’ll feel the confidence that you’ll overcome whatever you’re going through, and even a sense of comfort, in contrast to the panicking feeling you might be feeling earlier. 

You can use this list even on a good, or an average day when you need a short burst of motivation (or rather I should say self-motivation) and it’ll surely bring a smile on your face.

 

Using the Law of Conservation of Energy to Your Benefit

Using the Law of Conservation of Energy to Your Benefit

Jan 10, 2021 | 4 comments

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If you catch yourself saying “I don’t have the time or energy to do this” often, I have something for you.  

It’s The Law of conservation of energy.

The law of conservation of energy states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed – only converted from one form of energy to another.

This law is applicable all across the universe (which includes you, me and everything else there is).

It would basically mean that any type of energy, anger or calmness, activeness or lethargy, or any kind of emotion (which is a type of energy) is already there. It’s just that whatever you need in your life, needs to be activated, it needs to be harnessed and tapped into. 

You need to decide what to act upon. Whether it’ll be a kick ass exciting day or dead ass boring day depends upon you.

Both the two parts of this law may not be very evident together everywhere. You may think that the fire is giving out heat energy or the tubelight is giving out light energy. But the case is that the fire is just converting the energy of the fuel into heat energy and the tube light is converting electrical energy into light energy.  

I know that got a bit scientific but let’s move on.

Ok, so now does that mean that you already have the energy to do things you want? YES. And if you manage the energy to do those things well, you’ll automatically be able to manage your time. 

All this requires you to see what you are actually converting your energy to. That form could be anything including but not limited to your workout, screen time, assignments, or creative projects. This form could be anything because everything that you do requires energy and it will change from your energy to some other form.

Tell me what is your usual form that your energy is converted to? Mine is either converted to my assignments, blog at its best, and screen time at its worst.

What to do with new year resolutions?

What to do with new year resolutions?

Jan 3, 2021 | 14 comments

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‘New Year, New Me’

Yeah, we’re feeling it.

You’re bubbling with new year resolutions to make this year different? So am I! 

What do your resolutions include? Getting fit, eating healthy, scoring well in examinations?

Not gonna lie, mine include these too. In fact some things could be common in many people’s resolutions. Some things on the other hand differ very much, person to person.

Like mine include trying to learn football, animation, crochet and embroidery (if you know any of these things do let me know).

New Year resolutions are a wonderful concept.  A tradition in which you resolve to develop or continue good habits, change an undesired trait or behavior, accomplish a personal goal, or otherwise improve their life at the start of a new year. 

But I don’t get one thing about this. Why begin at the start of a new year?

I understand that the new year gives people hope and encouragement that they’ve done well in last year and wish to grow more this year or maybe give themselves another shot. However, isn’t this the case with months, weeks or days as well? 

Just because a year is a bigger unit of time it doesn’t mean we look forward to improving ourselves only at the beginning of the year. The same can be done for every single day.

Every day can bring out various possibilities and opportunities just as a year can bring you. You just need to be looking forward to it. 

Each month, week and day you hold the same power to bring about a change, as you hold each year.

So if you get distracted, or discontinue something for some reason, remember that you can get back up the very next day.

Have resolutions for the month, week and the day. It’ll give you something to look forward to.

Now you know what to do with your new year resolutions. Make them new day resolutions.

Happy New Year!

Tell me about your new year resolutions down below.

 

The Great Conjunction

The Great Conjunction

Dec 27, 2020 | 6 comments

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On the 21st of this month, there was a rare Saturn Jupiter conjunction that happens once every 20 years. Why do I say rare if it happens every 20 years? That’s because it was the closest since 1623 and the closest observable since 1226! I didn’t know about all this, my cousin had called up to inform me about this. He was so excited while telling me all this, that even I got hyped up about the conjunction.

As I was waiting for the planets to align, I texted my friends telling them about the same. Two of them didn’t understand what I was saying. That was still fine. Another friend did understand what I was saying. He texted back saying that, “Where is it? I can’t see it, is it even there?”

I called him up to tell him about the direction where it could be seen and at what time. He responded, “I’m already in the southwest direction and there’s absolutely nothing here. You can see it, isn’t it? Why don’t you send a photo of it?” and there was a distinct sound of someone laughing in the background, probably one of his friends. I could send a photo, but I knew it was gonna come back asking for proof that it was Saturn and Jupiter, and not some random stars in the sky. A little upset, I left the conversation at that. 

Maybe he was not able to see it. It could be cloudy at his place. It was a bit cloudy at my place too. But it doesn’t mean that if he can’t see it, neither can others.

This may not seem like something of much importance. And truthfully, it wasn’t. But the feeling of not being validated nagged at me. “Why was that?”, I asked myself. “Was it because my friend did not respond politely enough? Or, was it because he did not respond the way I wanted him to – with as much excitement as I was?

It could not be the former, because we talk to each other like that while lightheartedly bantering with each other. And that never hurt me before. 

That’s when it became clear to me that I was upset because he didn’t respond like I expected him to. Somewhere deep down, I think I was looking to be validated. I was expecting that if I tell others about something I am excited about, they’ll be excited about it too. But that’s no law, is it?

I think all of us have been through this at one point or another. We’ve felt dismayed when whatever we are saying is not received the way we expected it to be. This causes us more anxiety and worry than what it’s actually worth.

The only way to escape this anxiety is spreading information, but not expecting it to be received in a certain way and being satisfied if it makes you happy. Don’t keep your satisfaction dependent on someone else’s validation. 

Keep in mind, that the solution is not telling people anything at all. 

If that happened, other people would not know about things they could potentially be very fond of – like I came to know about the conjunction because of my cousin.

So keep your enthusiasm for life high and expectations low 🙂

That’s what I had to say to you, the last time this year. 

Wish you a belated Merry Christmas and a very Happy New year.

See you soon ❤️